The Half-Vite

Gingko Tree, Vanderbilt Estate

Gingko Tree, Vanderbilt Estate

I recently found myself in a curious situation when a friend invited me over for an after-work ‘drink’ to catch-up after we had both been crazy-busy.  She was quite specific, and I understood that this was not an invitation to dine.  So I went over with a bottle of wine, and after our first glass I prepared to leave.  Surprisingly my glass was refilled, and shortly thereafter her husband came home.  They had a brief private chat, which I took as my chance to rise, but she insisted I stay and finish my wine.  It was now an hour and a half later, and I realized I was in quite a quandary – I was invited to stay, but I was still not invited to dinner, and I was getting quite hungry.   On cue, my friend’s husband walked in and said, “Why don’t you stay for dinner, we’re just about to order in.” Honestly, it felt like a half-vite.

It was a prime example of needing an exit strategy.  Whether in life or business, there are times when you need to ‘quit’.  Before entering a new venture, you should always take into account all possible scenarios, prepare alternative strategies for success, and know when to walk away.  Planning all outcomes is the smartest way to mitigate professional risks and minimize uncomfortable personal situations.  

In hindsight, as much as I loved the conversation and the wine, I should have just kept it to the one glass of chitty chat.  If only I knew then what I know now!

Cheers to you!

All my best,


P.S. Many thanks to Bill Glasofer for donating the photo. It is the oldest Gingko Tree in the country and living peacefully at the Vanderbilt estate. See more photos by Bill at

P.P.S. Happy Thanksgiving!

“However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.”

  Sir Winston Churchill

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